In his Words
When I was younger I was quite the loner. Don’t worry, I had good reason to be.
I had just moved to Colorado when I was starting high school. I lived in what used to be my grandparent’s house with my dad, sister, two uncles, aunt, and sometimes younger cousin. The house was terribly small by most standards, and with all those people it felt even smaller. Being a new kid at school wasn’t helpful to the situation at all. Everyone knew each other, and it was hard for me to make friends in an environment I wasn’t used to.
So, the result of all this was a young version of me locking himself in his room for a majority of the time. I moved back to my hometown midway through high school and retained the habit of locking myself in my room for long periods of time. At that time, I was able to make friends and do more outgoing extracurricular activities, but I kept communication with my parents short and to the point. It’s not that I had any problem with talking to them, it was just the habit I had formed over time.
Even still, my parents had their own expectations for me even without asking. I never really gave it much thought because I always knew my own ambitions and planned to carry them even if it wasn’t what my parents wanted. But that wasn’t the problem. I know now that most parents just want a stable and successful life for the children and so was the case with my own parents. The problem was that I wanted to aim so much higher than that. I was a textbook daydreamer and there was no doubt in my mind that the whole world was within my grasp. It’s hard for a young person to explain to their parents exactly what they might want in life when they think they might be met with skepticism.
It’s very true that parents have more years of life experience than their kids and their skepticism is from a place of concern, but it’s not healthy to limit the dreams of a child for the sake of being pragmatic. I think this occurrence of miscommunication happens far more often than people think. I’ve witnessed it in my life and especially in the lives of my friends.
Too many times have I met someone who’s life goals are based around meeting their parent’s expectations. Again, the problem here is not that parents have certain expectations for their children and are stubborn about changing them, it’s that if teenagers felt more comfortable expressing their ambitions to their parents, and parents were more encouraging about freedom of expression, then the crucial part of young person’s life involving choosing their professional path would be handled better.
Even so, the fact remains that this problem isn’t easily solved. Through the services that Be Iconic Entertainment provide, young people can be empowered outside of the home. Maybe next time the conversation about their future is brought up by their parents, they will feel comfortable expressing how high they intend to aim.
I had just moved to Colorado when I was starting high school. I lived in what used to be my grandparent’s house with my dad, sister, two uncles, aunt, and sometimes younger cousin. The house was terribly small by most standards, and with all those people it felt even smaller. Being a new kid at school wasn’t helpful to the situation at all. Everyone knew each other, and it was hard for me to make friends in an environment I wasn’t used to.
So, the result of all this was a young version of me locking himself in his room for a majority of the time. I moved back to my hometown midway through high school and retained the habit of locking myself in my room for long periods of time. At that time, I was able to make friends and do more outgoing extracurricular activities, but I kept communication with my parents short and to the point. It’s not that I had any problem with talking to them, it was just the habit I had formed over time.
Even still, my parents had their own expectations for me even without asking. I never really gave it much thought because I always knew my own ambitions and planned to carry them even if it wasn’t what my parents wanted. But that wasn’t the problem. I know now that most parents just want a stable and successful life for the children and so was the case with my own parents. The problem was that I wanted to aim so much higher than that. I was a textbook daydreamer and there was no doubt in my mind that the whole world was within my grasp. It’s hard for a young person to explain to their parents exactly what they might want in life when they think they might be met with skepticism.
It’s very true that parents have more years of life experience than their kids and their skepticism is from a place of concern, but it’s not healthy to limit the dreams of a child for the sake of being pragmatic. I think this occurrence of miscommunication happens far more often than people think. I’ve witnessed it in my life and especially in the lives of my friends.
Too many times have I met someone who’s life goals are based around meeting their parent’s expectations. Again, the problem here is not that parents have certain expectations for their children and are stubborn about changing them, it’s that if teenagers felt more comfortable expressing their ambitions to their parents, and parents were more encouraging about freedom of expression, then the crucial part of young person’s life involving choosing their professional path would be handled better.
Even so, the fact remains that this problem isn’t easily solved. Through the services that Be Iconic Entertainment provide, young people can be empowered outside of the home. Maybe next time the conversation about their future is brought up by their parents, they will feel comfortable expressing how high they intend to aim.